Category: Self Awareness
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Overcoming First Timer Syndrome- Know Your Place
Have you heard people saying ‘Know your place’? People use it negatively. When people think you are where you don’t belong or deserve, they tell you to know your place. When it comes to a first-timer leadership position, the skepticism could come from your own self or others.
Consciously or unconsciously, you may think that you don’t belong or deserve this new position. You doubt yourself at many levels. If In case you think you know your place and you earn it, you may face skepticism from others such as your team members and other stakeholders. Those who competed for that the new position may think that you don’t deserve it. They may assume that they were the right fit for the place. Your team members, especially if you were peers and now you are promoted to lead them, some of your team members may not accept you right away, consciously or unconsciously.
The best way to shut down your inner critics and other skeptics is to actually ‘Know Your Place’ very well. Knowledge takes away any mystery. It sets you free, and in turn, increases your confidence. The question is what kind of knowledge you do need right away to know and then own the place from the get going.
The most important knowledge you need to have include:
- The organization
- Your boss
- The Team
- Key stakeholders
The most important first knowledge is about you. Philosophers had been emphasizing the importance of conquering self than trying to conquer the rest of the world. They realized that the most subtle and dangerous foe that stands in the way the most and stop you from succeeding than what is in the outside. There is a powerful African’s saying, “If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do us no harm.” Ask these questions:
- From where did I come from?
- Who am I?
- Why am I here?
- What should I be doing now?
- Where am I heading?
The answers to these questions increase your awareness and your ability to manage and control yourself. Leadership begins with self. The more you lead yourself successfully, the more you could succeed leading others. On the other hand, if you cannot manage yourself, your emotions, time, and resources, chances are high that you may not able to lead others and their resources effectively. The more you know about yourself and get answers to the above questions, the more you develop confidence, and as a result, feel and look in charge of your new leadership place.
In Episode 7, I talked about the importance of Knowing Your Place by knowing more and in-depth about yourself, the organization, your boss, your team members, and other key stakeholders. I’m not talking about superficial acquaintances. You need to go deeper than you did when you prepared for the interview. This journey positions you to overcome the first-timer syndrome. Watch the episode and let me know if you may have any questions. If you may have any topic you want me to cover or questions you would like me to answer in the upcoming episodes, let me know.
If you’re also interested to go deeper with me, make sure to sign up for the 7-days challenge I’m planning to issue soon. During those 7-days, I will send you video clips and other helpful resources to overcome the first-timer syndrome you may already experience now or in the future. In order to get these resources for free, sign up for the email list by going to www.assegid.com
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Overcoming the First Timer Syndrome
In the past episodes, I focused on the principles mandatory to transform our status from underdogs into greats. No underdog can experience any meaningful transformation without dealing with your underlining principles, beliefs, and philosophies. They dictate how you think, talk, behave and act.
Many people try to experience some kind of radical transformation by just making some changes superficially. That is what people do with their New Year’s resolution. They come up with some alterations in their routines. They make some changes in the way they look, dress, behave, and so on. They don’t have time to deal with the underlining ideologies. That is why many New Year Resolutions don’t deliver sustainable changes. If you want to go high go deeper. You cannot go deeper without tackling your underlining deep beliefs, ideologies, philosophies, and principles. That is why I made sure to produce my first couple of episodes on principles.
Let me take a risk with a chance I may offend you. We can divide people who died in poverty and insignificant into three: a) The first are those billions who were not exposed to the right principles. I sympathize with these souls. B) The second are those who didn’t want to face their ignorance. They have certain principles that didn’t take them anywhere. They heard from others handed down to them traditionally from one generation to another. They thought they knew enough but they were taught wrong. C) The third group thought they know enough. They were prideful. They didn’t want to challenge their status quo principles. They acted like they knew it all. They closed their mind and heart refusing to challenge the existing principles they adopted and then to learn new ones. The last two groups preferred to die poor and insignificant than face their ignorance or pride.
I’m sure you’re not in these groups. Otherwise, you won’t be reading this. However, if in case you stumbled on this blog but you didn’t commit yourself to grow your self, you need to make rethink. If you are a person who surrounds yourself with people who cheer you up and never stretch and challenge you, you are in danger. You need people who stretch and challenge and guide you. Of course, I don’t need to be the one doing this for you but you must find your teachers, and mentors if your desire is to experience transformation from underdog to great.
In this episode, I emphasized the importance of always challenging our beliefs, philosophies, and principles to make sure that they are up to date and working in our favor since they dictate how we think, talk, behave and act. To learn more about the most important principles underdogs need to understand and practice to transform themselves into greats, check out the previous 5 episodes.
In Episode 6, I deal with the first-timer syndrome. I talked about why the transition to a new first timer leadership role is tough and why that happens. In the upcoming few episodes, I will give more insights, tools, and approaches that will empower you to succeed in your current or future first-timer leadership position as a team lead, project manager, supervisor or business owner.
You could be a new first timer team lead, project manager, supervisor, or business owner. You may not be at all. You could be an aspirant first-timer. Regardless, these episodes will empower you to go ahead of the curve so that you could shorten your transition and lessen the impact of the first-timer syndrome. You may not be as such fresh in your current first-timer position. You would be able to know what you’re doing right and what you need to improve.
Remember, we all pass through transitions. All transitions are challenging. Remember also that all first-timers regardless of how many times they were first-timers in the past will experience first-timer syndromes. For instance, if someone has been a supervisor and just promoted to a manager position or if a manager just got promoted to an executive position or an executive just promoted to become a CEO. They would definitely experience the syndrome. The difference is that they know how to get over this syndrome quickly. Actually, they learned from experience that they prepared themselves well ahead of the curve to prepare themselves. Thus, don’t feel bad if you are experiencing these first-timers syndrome.
Let’s address this. What makes a transition into a new leadership role hard?
- Lots of things changed. New goals, expectations, even new people, and so on.
- What helped you to succeed in your previous roles may not help you at all
- The things that empowered you to excel may sabotage you in your new leadership roles
What are some of the symptoms you may feel when you are infected with this syndrome? Here are some of the things you may experience when you are placed in a new leadership position:
- And more.
If you like what you have read so far, I encourage you to watch Episode 6- Overcoming First Timer Syndrome.
Stay tuned for the upcoming episodes. The next episode empowers you to know and own your first-timer place. It is key to increase your confidence during the transition. Don’t forget to subscribe so that you will be notified when a new episode is uploaded. Like, comment, and also share this show with those who may benefit from it.
I’m planning to have a 7 days challenge to empower you to succeed in your first-timer leadership position. Make sure to go to www.assegid.com to sign up for the email list to get follow up materials such as free video clips, worksheets, and so on.
Do me a favor until the next episode: Send me your questions. What kind of issues you would like me to cover that may help you to overcome the first-timer syndrome?
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The Top 3 Success Principles
There are countless success laws. Out of these myriad success principles, I found out that there are 3 top foundational success principles. I discovered these when I was young in the early ’90s and practiced them in my own life and harvested some results. I also came to realize that those underdogs I studied in my latest 2 books, who transformed their lives into greats, applied these success secrets.
In this blog, I’ll share with you these 3 top success principles and how they reinforce one another to deliver extraordinary results:
- Seeing your unlimited potential and how far you can go in life
- Talking right to bring forth what you have seen and hoped to achieve during your lifetime
- Acting on what you saw and spoke about
Let me quickly explain to you these principles:
1. Seeing your unlimited potential and how far you can go in life. Success and greatness begins with ‘seeing’. You cannot believe what you couldn’t ‘see’ with your inner eye. Unfortunately, many depend on their bare eyes. Since what they see with their naked eyes doesn’t look, feel, and sound like great, they don’t believe that they have greatness within. As a result, they cannot fathom the unlimited potential they carry within, and therefore, they don’t speak and act that match their limitless potential. Use your insight to envision your limitless potential before you manifest them. See your potential right now because what you see determines how you handle yourself. Don’t allow others who cannot see your potential define who you are and how far you can go. Your future is glorious and will surprise and stun you if you open your eyes and ‘see’ your limitless potential. I can tell you that I’ve not become anything I didn’t see and believed years earlier. None of the major events in my life happened before I seeing them years, sometimes months earlier. I’m sure, what I’m seeing now will come to pass if I continue to talk about and take action.
2. Talking right to bring forth what you have seen and hoped to achieve during your lifetime. After seeing your potential and how far you can go, the next important step is to believe in what you saw. Let me give you a litmus test whether you saw and believed in your potential and how far you can go: You cannot help it but speak what you saw. Your faith on your potential and abilities can’t be seen. However, your words can be heard, and your actions can be seen. Talking right is not just for merely saying it or to brag about it. It is a principle for which you yourself, others, the universe, and God to respond. Once you talk about a thing, you are committed both consciously and unconsciously. Even if you forget about what you talk consciously, your subconscious won’t forget it. Your talk not only inspires you to take a risk and act boldly, but it also influences people who listen to you. You get your partners and supporters who share your vision if and only if they hear talk about it. The universe and God respond to your positive confessions.
3. Acting on what you saw and spoke about. This principle seals everything. Yes, you saw your potential no one could see. You believed that you could become whatever you want to be. You were so obsessed and confident that you began speaking first with the people very close to you. Others might think that you are cocky, overconfident, arrogant, or even prideful. It doesn’t matter. Who are these people? Sometimes we value people on face value. Yes, we need to respect people and serve them. However, when it comes to giving your ears and heart, ask who deserve it? What is their credential? Have the accomplished something? Do they have authenticity in the area they are talking about? Otherwise, you are listening to a bunch of theorists who don’t have any clue about what they are talking. Why would you listen to the people who didn’t see what you saw? Why would you kill your vision in the hands of skeptics? Why would you deny your potential and destiny a fair chance by listening to people who aren’t going anywhere and without any hope? Ignore these and begin acting boldly. Somehow, I got lucky at the early stage of my life to take actions. I acted like a kid. I didn’t overthink things or run in my head worrying what would happen if I fail. I kept the discipline to go out and take action once I take my time to strategize and plan.
Going forward, I will produce episodes that empower underdogs who either promoted themselves (by opening their own practice or business) or promoted for the first time into a new leadership position. Many organizations arrange workshops and assign coaches and mentors for such first-timers. If your organization doesn’t sponsor you or you cannot sponsor yourself to go to such empowering programs, hire a coach or mentor, which could allow you to start your new position with the right footing.
If you like what you have read so far, I encourage you to watch Episode 5- The 3 Top Success Principles. In this episode, I pointed out how what we see dictates what we believe, talk, and finally act. Using my own story from more than 2 decades ago as I was preparing and contesting to become the president of the largest university students’ union, I shared how I applied these principles without even knowing it, and got elected when I was a third-year student. If you don’t know me this episode enables you to know a piece of my past history. You would find this story funny but at the same time powerful for a college student.
If you haven’t yet, subscribe to this channel, its podcast, share it with the people that you care about, continue to engage with me on social media as I further share daily inspirational posts on this the same theme. Go to www.assegid.com to follow me on social media. Stay tuned for the next episode.
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Imposter Syndrome- Dealing with your inner critic voice
If you are feeling inadequate, not ready to step up and go to the next level, struggling within and questioning your worth and achievements, you need to watch this short clip I recorded on my phone while I was traveling. To get these kinds of tips on a consistent basis, subscribe to the Dr. AZ Show, follow me on social media by going to www.assegid.com Let me know your thoughts on social media, engage with me and others by asking questions and sharing your perspectives. That is how you grow as a leader and transform yourself from an underdog to great! Enjoy your well-deserving weekend! #Underdogs #impostersyndrome #DrAZShow #LeadershipForUnderdogs