Free Resources on Managing Emotions

Hope, you and your family are safe and okay in this tough time.

While we are facing a global pandemic that has affected almost everyone alive in this generation, directly or indirectly, I thought to share with you some free resources that may empower you to manage your emotions effectively.

Millions are infected and are dealing with the devastating symptoms of this virus. Hundreds of thousands of people have also died leaving millions to mourn their losses. Millions have lost their jobs and countless businesses have been also closed.

These direct and indirect impacts of COVID19 cause stress in many homes and organizations. Such stressful times heighten our emotions making us vulnerable more than ever.

It is okay to find ourselves struggling with some unproductive emotions in times of crisis. We are emotional beings. Emotions are mere information letting us know what is happening underground. What isn’t okay is if they are adversely affecting our mood, health, and relationships. 

We may not have control over many things out there. We cannot control how the disease is spreading and when it will be under control. We cannot control how others around us behave, decide, and act. We only have control over ourselves. We can only regulate our own emotions. This may in turn improves our health, relationships, and partnerships. This is especially important if you are a leader.

You have to be aware of the emotions that you are experiencing moment by moment, and also the emotions of your people. You should also take it to the next level by expressing your emotions intelligently. You should also manage the emotions of others indirectly. You have the ability to change the atmosphere you find yourself in. What you need is improving your emotional fitness, especially now while we are in the midst of a major global crisis. 

In this blog, I thought to share with you some free resources that may empower you to take your emotional intelligence to the next level.

1. Get Chapter 2- “Regulating Your Emotions Wittingly” of my book ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success’. Click here to download it for free. 

2. When I was in Canada in January this year, I recorded a very short clip on my cell phone about Emotional Fitness. Click here to check it out…

3. I also recorded another short clip when I was facilitating a one-day workshop on Emotional Intelligence in February this year called Be Emotionally Available.

4. Recently, I also volunteered to facilitate a webinar on Managing Emotions in the Era of COVID19 for a non-profit leadership organization I helped found in 2009.

Let me know your thoughts once you check these out. How are you managing your emotions during this crisis? What is helping you to succeed? What is getting in the way?

Reach out if you may have any questions: Tel: 240-554-5282

Don’t just wish, roll your sleeves up…

Let me be the bad guy here as many would like to avoid talking tough topics especially at this point where no one is sure what will happen next. Regardless of how this crisis will end, there will be WINNERS and LOSERS! That is the hard truth, yah! But many of us don’t face it consciously and consistently. We hope things would be okay and we all land on the same paradise when this crisis ends. I had wished if I said there will be WINNERS and WINNERS.

The hard question- especially if you’re an underdog person, business, and/or community- is on which side you would like to end up when this all ends? Wait for a second and think again. Remember, no one in his/her right mind would like to be a loser!

Everybody would ‘hope’ to be on the winning side or at least the unaffected (untouched) side. But, we know how things go on this messed-up planet. Wishing is one thing, the reality is another.

Leaders, however, don’t just wish. They roll their sleeves and willingly get dirty during a crisis to make sure that they, their organization, and community end up on the winning side or at least the least affected side.
Don’t wish there wasn’t a crisis, wish you have had what it takes to turn liabilities that come with the crisis to assets. The drive to play a proactive role in shaping the new norm in the aftermath.

Don’t expect others to do the dirty work for you. Don’t over depend on others. You must be self-reliant, especially in times like this.

There are certain things within your scope, influence, and means. Use these to shape yours and your people’s future.

Check out this final episode on crisis management, and let me know your take. Let me also know what you’re doing right now to mold your destiny when this all ends? Share it if you find this episode empowering and also leave comments:

How to Thrive in the Aftermath of COVID19

We all have been facing crises, some personal while others corporate level. We aren’t new to a crisis. It was and it’ll continue to co-exist with us.

At this moment, we are dealing with one of the toughest crises in human history. So far, it broke our hearts by claiming hundreds of thousands of precious souls. It made millions sick and out of work.

What is more? We don’t know what will happen tomorrow, next week, nor next month for that matter because of the crisis’s direct and indirect impacts.

Unlike the frequent crises we individually and corporately face, the COVID19 related crisis is different only because it has a global magnitude. Even then, this crisis isn’t new. We had crises like this in history. Though each one of these crises with global magnitude and scope was different in terms of their causes and impacts, they all shared the same characteristics, which COVIDE19 crisis also shares.

As I discussed in the previous blogs, a crisis is an extreme form of unplanned change. It is:

  • Sudden, or at least, it catches us by surprise.
  • We don’t have direct control
  • It feels like we are helpless and victims.
  • And so on.

Another nature of crisis many of us forget once we are under its attack is the feeling of it is here to stay. We’re so stressed out and pressured dealing with the direct and indirect consequences of this crisis, we may fail to stop for a moment and acknowledge that it’s not permanent. It will go away at the end of the day.

What we know from history is that all crises came and gone, they are now just history. The COVID19 related crisis too won’t be exceptional. What we don’t know yet is when it is going to evaporate or at least stop savaging the lives of precious people. Otherwise, this too shall pass.

The question is, if it is here not to stay, what are we doing right now as we deal with its immediate impacts to prepare ourselves and go beyond just surviving this crisis? How are we spending our time right now? Are we dividing it between spending on immediate and future needs? Are we strategic and positioning ourselves not only to outlast if it prolongs but also to thrive in the aftermath?

Today, I want to use this opportunity to emphasize the importance of reminding ourselves again and again that this crisis isn’t here to stay. I also want to ask you this question and please answer it adequately: What should you be doing right now in the middle of this crisis, first, to outlast it and then to position yourself (your career, organization, and community) to thrive in its aftermath?

Unfortunately, by its nature, crisis pressures many to focus on survival neglecting the future altogether. Yes, we must first, individually, and corporately survive. Otherwise, there may not be any future at all. However, while surviving, it is important to prepare for the new normal.

Ask yourself:

  • What kind of place do you and/or your organization/community will have in the new normal?
  • Will you be relevant?
  • Will you be competitive?
  • Will you have leverage and competitive advantages?

We have to be proactive to create a future where we have a meaningful place in the new normal. There are certain things within our control right in the middle of doing our best to survive this crisis. Though we may not have lots of control during a crisis like this, there are some within our scope and means. We can do something while dealing with the direct and indirect impacts of COBID19 to survive this difficult time so as to have a favorable future when it all ends. You can do so many things but, the bare minimum, I suggest three things that are within your reach:

  1. Reform. This crisis has shown all of us individually and collectively our weak links, where we failed in the past. This is time to make some changes, really deep changes. Of course, you should not change what must not change. The main things such as who you are, your mission, and what you stand for- your values, must survive. The changes you should execute in the different aspects of your life, career, and organization should enable you to deal with past weaknesses and limitations that exposed you or made you vulnerable during this crisis. That way, not only you outlast this crisis in the NOW but it also positions you to deal with the next unforeseeable crises with more resilience and capabilities. You should be in a better position than where you were when this crisis began.
  2. Grow. You must use the downtime right now to grow individually and collectively. You have to become better and stronger, which in turn, equips you to outlast if in case this crisis stays longer. It also positions you to have a more promising future in the long term. Grow holistically.
  3. Innovate. When you reform, you are trying to deal with past inadequacies to survive. When you grow, you are building your current capabilities to outlast. Though these are great and will definitely empower you to outlast and even thrive in the aftermath, you need to innovate to create your own future in the aftermath through innovation. Don’t bury your head in the sand. Don’t attempt to just keep your head above the water. Unleash your creative genius! This is a golden chance to be creative and dictate the future and then lead it.

Episode 13 is the last one to focus solely on the crisis. I’ll have another theme for the coming couple of episodes. Of course, I’ll definitely provide some leadership tips in these episodes that may empower you during this hard time.

In Episode 13, I talked about how to thrive in the aftermath. I’ve explained the above three approaches and gave some interesting stories one from the US- Kodak vs. Fuji, and another one from Ethiopia- Ethiopian Airlines.

Below is the video clip. Watch it and let me know your thoughts.

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By the way, I also released an online course ‘Overcoming First-Timer Syndrome’ for Team Leads, Project Managers, Supervisors, and Business Owners. The course has 11 modules. Each module has 30 – 45 minutes of video teaching and a worksheet that summarizes the main discussion points, learning objectives plus lots of assignments. There are also some downloadable samples and templates. To learn more about the course, check out this page:

Webinar Recording on Managing Emotions in the COVID19 Era

On April 25th, 2020, PRO Leadership- a nonprofit organization I helped found, arranged a webinar entitled “Managing Emotions in the COVID19 Era.”

The webinar was the first of a series of webinars. It aimed at equipping leaders to understand and develop their emotional fitness during this tough time caused because of COVID19 pandemic. It was also designed to empower leaders to tap into their own emotions and the emotions of others to cope with, outlast, and ultimately come out stronger once this is all over.

It was arranged for PRO Leadership teams both in the diaspora and Africa. We got permission from attendees to record the webinar and share it with those who missed the webinar with leaders like yourself. Watch it and let me know your feedback. Tell me what went well and what should have been differently.

Webinar on Managing Emotions in the COVID19 Era

Crisis comes on all of us. It doesn’t have any favorites. It is stingy 

Experiencing crisis is part of life and being human. However, those who understand emotions (what emotions are, how they are formed, what triggers them, etc.), and most importantly, those who are skillful to manage their emotions and the emotions of others have a better chance to handle the stress that comes with a crisis like this.

No wonder why the wisest king who ever lived on earth said he who controls his emotions is more powerful than the one who conquers a city. Many lives are stressed out, health impacted, relationships ruined, and partnerships damaged because of a lack of emotional fitness during a crisis.

Many don’t understand their own emotions and/or the emotions of others. Even if they do, they don’t think they can do something about the uninvited and unproductive emotions that frequent them. They find themselves helpless and victims of emotions. That shouldn’t be you!!!

If you’re specially a leader, though you are impacted directly or indirectly by this pandemic like everybody else, you have an additional responsibility to serve your communities with courage and emotional fitness during this tough time. Taking this into account, one of the non-profit organizations I volunteer for has arranged a free webinar that will be conducted this coming Saturday on April 25th. For details, please check out this link

Though this webinar was arranged for our Teams both here in the Diaspora and Africa, we have enough seats to invite some of our past leaders and volunteers, and future prospective strategic partners and volunteers.

If you haven’t yet, this is my hope that you will join me at PRO Leadership to raise the next generation of leaders. One of the key leadership competencies during crises is our emotional fitness. We cannot lead successfully in the midst of chaos if we don’t master our emotions and engage with others at emotional level.

Therefore, if you have been one of our past leaders/volunteers or pledge to be one of our future prospective strategic partners and volunteers, and interested to join our teams as we discuss how to manage our emotions in the COVID19 Era, email your interest to to get the login info

Hope to see you then!

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