Destroying Victim Mentality

In my recent blog ‘What is & isn’t Greatness’, I demystified misunderstandings around the concept of greatness, and redefined true greatness. In that episode, I also pointed out that while the world has been rattled by the COVID19 pandemic and mourning the loss of lives and destruction of careers and businesses, we were greeted with the nonsense brutal murder of an unarmed already cuffed man on the ground in daylight by a brutal law enforcement official.

That incident was unfortunate for happening on the soil of America- a country that supposed to be a symbol of freedom and justice around the world. However, it brought together diverse people worldwide to demand justice, equality, institutional reforms, and policy changes. These changes, nonetheless, take years and sometimes even decades. That was why I suggested that we all, regardless of our differences, should play our parts to bring speedy institutional reforms and policy changes collectively while also not losing sight of working on ourselves to earn respect, for which we have absolute control.

By the way, that is why I decided to produce a series of episodes to empower underdogs to transform their lives into great during their lifetime, to become top dogs in the field of their choice. In this Episode entitled Destroying Victim Mentality, I used contemporary great ones such as Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, and Les Brown to show how these underdogs overcame and finally became top dogs in their respective industries regardless of the existence of victimizing people and systems. They succeeded and now they have a huge influence around the world because they had destroyed victim mentality.

I never met nor read a story of a great one who dwelt in victimhood, even those who were subjected to brutal victimization. Think about Nelson Mandela and how the apartheid regime subjected him to inhumane treatments for more than a quarter of a century. While in prison and after he was released, he demonstrated no sign of victimhood. Actually, he went the extra mile to show the world how he turned victimhood into victorhood.

Mandela forgave his tormentors. Not only that, but he also invited the prison guards who most probably tortured or beaten him up, or at least mistreated him at his inaugural ceremony. What is more? Madiba invited the state prosecutor- Percy Yutar, who was seeking the death penalty against him to lunch at the Presidential mansion. Nelson Mandela had no victim mentality and was free both from the physical confinement of prison walls and also the mental prison of revenge and bitterness. This shocked many including one of the victimizers, Percy Yutar. Before the lunch, he told journalists: “I wonder in what other country in the world would you have the head of the government inviting someone to lunch who prosecuted him thirty years ago.”

I would be lying to you if I tell you that I have never been infected by victimhood syndrome. Some years back, I spent hours and days to deal with some of the disempowering beliefs I had which were formed while I was a kid to make sure that I wasn’t hiding behind faulty beliefs as excuses. I was able to uproot many sabotaging beliefs that bred conscious and unconscious victimhood.

In Episode 15, I shared one of my recent victim mentalities and how I finally destroyed it when I increased my awareness, changed my thoughts, and took actions. In this episode, I also shared how victim mentality is formed, and the approaches one can use to destroy victim mentality. Watch the video clip and let me know if you may have any questions or topics I should cover in the upcoming episodes…

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I’m conducting a series of webinars on the theme “Turning Conflicts into Opportunities in Times of Crisis”. Conflict happens everywhere. It is part of our history. It began when Cain killed Abel. Conflict happens at home, in the workplace, on the street, on the manufacturing floor, in the Board room, almost everywhere, except in the graveyards 6 feet deep down there. Thus, having conflict is not a bad thing at all, especially in times like this where we are experiencing all kinds of crises. Crisis breeds & aggravates conflicts.

This webinar empowers you to understand the true nature of conflict, sources of conflicts, and approaches and strategies to turn conflicts into opportunities. You will also get a tool that helps you understand your own preference in dealing with conflict, how to develop other conflict response styles so as to master turning conflicts into opportunities. The webinar offers you the latest insights, a model, some strategies, and tactics that empower you to tap into every conflict and use it for you, your team’s, and organization’s advantages. It enables you to create an environment where people are encouraged to air their disagreements and take risks to innovate and create.

Follow this link to register and attend the webinar for free, and enjoy the irresistible exclusive offers: https://event.webinarjam.com/register…

The offers include downloading two chapters of my book entitled ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success’ for free. It also included getting my eBooks for only 2.99 USD (regular price of 6.99 USD), the online course I created for 1st timer Team Leads, Project Managers, Supervisors, and Business Owners for only 29 USD (regular price of 49 USD), and a chance to be one of a very few coachees I will coach for 12 weeks- one hour per week, based on the 12 Soft Skills That Make or Break one’s success book, and the 11 modules of the online course.

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What is and isn’t Greatness

We are facing two major crises at the same time. While our hands were full as we dealt with the global pandemic that was caused by COVID19, we were greeted by another national crisis following the brutal murder of George Floyd. Since then, the world has been enraged and demanding justice, institutional reforms, and policy changes.

Well, these two crises won’t be the last ones. I don’t think that we will have a world free from crises at all. In that case, we better step up and develop the right mindset, competencies, and character that enable us to survive crises that are trying to drown us and future ones that may come to swallow us alive individually and collectively. What is more? We must be multitasked to carry out our day to day responsibilities while maintaining our sanity to deal with the uncomfortable realities these two crises brought on us. We must also be proactive to find sustainable solutions for the root causes of these crises while addressing the immediate challenges that impact us all individually and collectively.

While we mourn those who died and feel the pains of those who are affected, directly or indirectly, we should do our parts to reverse what was wrong and build what is right and win-win for everyone in our society. We should all play our part toward institutional reforms and policy changes collectively. Nonetheless, I must be honest with you that such changes take time. Besides, we individually may not have direct control to dictate the content and pace of these reforms and policy changes. What we have is control over what we can do starting from today.

We should not wait for all the proverbial traffic lights to turn green to begin driving and heading toward our destiny. We should work on ourselves for which we have absolute control without waiting for anyone. We can begin working on ourselves right away without waiting days, weeks, months, years, and until institutions and policies to change.

You may ask, what kind of work are you suggesting? I am proposing that you begin to unchain the greatness within you. In my two books entitled ‘The Highest Level of Greatness’ and ‘Unchain Your Greatness, I declared the truth your true inner self knows: You are greatness material. We weren’t created for mediocrity. We’re masterpieces created by the GREAT God who has no limitation and scarcity. The God who never creates accidents and mediocre. We were designed, configured, equipped, and sent to manifest His Greatness in this universe.

Since the truth about you is what I just stated above, you shouldn’t believe in any opinion that doesn’t agree with these truths. They’re entitled to their opinion. You’re also entitled to your opinion which is based on the eternal truth that you’re created after the image of God who is an expert in creating greatness. What is left, which is in your absolute control, is to work on your mindset- To configure and reconfigure your attitude. Once that work is done, you no more are a victim or helpless. You’re a diamond in the rough. The rest is a matter of time. However, if you are messed up in your head between your ears, no one can deliver you. You won’t be able to claim or reclaim your birthright of greatness regardless of your ethnicity, race, gender, background, etc.

If you are an underdog and despised by your friends, colleagues, and/or society as nobody, you may be wondering as you read the above statements whether I am in my right mind when I tell you that people like you are meant to attain a glorious destiny before they leave this planet. Yes, I truly believe in what I’m writing. I’m your transformation architect empowering you to experience transformation from underdog to great, from underdog to top dog. Trust me, they have been brainwashing you since childhood telling you that ‘you don’t amount to anything’, and you trusted them. You have been lied against without even knowing it. Of course, our belief system is formed when we were young. Most of the counterproductive beliefs that are sabotaging us were put without our conscious awareness and choice. However, this must not continue.

I encourage you to begin working on yourself starting today while playing your part for justice and equality. Throughout the thought of you do not amount to anything. Like the great ones you admire and adore, you have what it takes to attain greatness. They were like you before they began their journey toward greatness. They were true to who they were. They committed to their purpose and cause. They gave it their best, went all in, and left a legacy that you and I still celebrate.

You too can attain such a success during your lifetime. However, that journey must begin now. You can transform yourself from an underdog to top dog in the field of your choice. You deserve to live a dignified life. You have what it takes to earn the respect of those who may despise you. Rather than demanding respect, which you don’t have much control (you cannot stop someone what they think about you in their head), you can earn it and when that happens, they cannot help it but respect you even if you do it not to appease or meet the expectation of anyone else.

Acknowledging that there are many misunderstandings and myths that may prevent many from believing that they are greatness material, in Episode 14, I answered the questions of what is and isn’t greatness. I clarified some misunderstandings that have kept many from claiming their birthright of greatness. By giving some examples, my own story, I showed some of the faulty beliefs that have kept people from embracing the concept of greatness. I also defined what true greatness means, greatness based on who you truly are. Watch the clip below to learn more and let me know your thought:

Let me also know if you may have any questions or topics I should cover in the upcoming episodes…

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I’m conducting a series of webinars on the theme “Leading Emotions in Times of Crisis”. Crises heighten our emotions. We are easily provoked. We may hurt our mood, performance, health, and relationships if we don’t know how to lead our emotions and the emotions of others. This is high time to be friendly with and lead our emotions to use them in our favor. We must lead ours and the emotions of others successfully to survive, outlast, and ultimately thrive in the aftermath of these crises. Follow this link to register and attend the webinar for free, and enjoy the irresistible exclusive offers: https://event.webinarjam.com/register…

The offers include getting my eBooks for only 2.99 USD (regular price of 6.99 USD), the online course I created for 1st timer Team Leads, Project Managers, Supervisors, and Business Owners for only 29 USD (regular price of 49 USD), and a chance to be one of a very few coachees I will coach for 12 weeks- one hour per week, based on the 12 Soft Skills That Make or Break one’s success book, and the 11 modules of the online course.

Make sure to subscribe to this channel so that you won’t miss future episodes. Like, leave your comments, and share it with those who may benefit from the show. Go to www.assegid.com to follow me on social media as I post multiple times each day inspirational and informative messages and tips. Go to www.successpws.com to learn more about our products and services.

Webinar on Leading Emotions in Times of Crisis plus exclusive offers

Emotions are heightened in times of crisis where we are prone to lose our cool so easily. Times of crisis may allow some of our unproductive emotions to reign over us hurting our health, relationships, and performance. This webinar increases your awareness about emotions, how they are formed, how they are triggered, and how to lead emotions in your favor.  The webinar is going to be filled with great insights, stories, processes, tools, strategies, and tactics that empower you to be in charge of your emotions and influence the emotions of others around you.

Click here to sign up: https://event.webinarjam.com/register/2/w8q70t4

There are some irresistible exclusive free and discount offers for those who attain the webinar such as soft copies of my books, the online course designed for first-timer Team Leads, Project Managers, and Supervisors, and also a few spots for one-on-one coaching based on the 12 soft skills and the 11 modules of the online course.

Please share this opportunity with people within your circle who may benefit from the webinar and the exclusive one-time offers.

Reach out if you may have any questions: Tel: 240-554-5282 Email: info@successpws.com

1-pager sample Leadership Philosophy

One of the differentiating factors between novice and seasoned leaders is their predictability. Seasoned leaders articulate and share their leadership philosophy to the people they lead from the get go. They may not call it Leadership Philosophy. They might not even put it in writing. But, they have a philosophy that guides their leadership. The philosophy incorporates their core leadership principles, beliefs, style(s), and expectations.

Whether you’re a junior or senior leader and in which ever industry you may be right now, if you haven’t yet, use this opportunity to articulate, write down & share your leadership philosophy.

Whether they admit it or not, every leader has a philosophy that dictates the way the leader thinks, behaves, decides, & acts. You aren’t conscious about your philosophy doesn’t mean that it isn’t influencing your attitudes and styles. Especially now, in this unpredictable world of global pandemic, you must be predictable. The latter gives you authenticity, credibility, and at the end of the day influence.

People may not be enthusiastic about your principles, styles, and expectations but they would be willing to follow you because they know what to expect from you & what you expect in return. They may not like you but they would respect and trust you. And, you desperately need these to remain an effective leader in times of crisis.

In this free offer, I am sharing with you my own 1-pager leadership philosophy as a sample, which I already shared in my recently released online course for first timer Team Leads, Project Managers, Supervisors & Business Owners. Module 9 of the course is entitled ‘Articulate Your Leadership Philosophy’. The sample Leadership Philosophy is one of the downloads available to those who signed up for the course. From the sample, you will learn:

1. How to articulate your core leadership beliefs.

2. How to clearly state your major expectations.

3. How to be upfront concerning what they should expect from you.

You can use the sample to articulate yours or help your mentees and coachees to have one. The end product doesn’t have to look like mine. Your principles and expectations could be different than mine. That is okay. We all are different due to our mission in life, what matters to us the most, our personality type, preferences, the stage of leadership we are at, and so on. You can also add or remove some of the sections depending on your needs.


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Free Resources on Managing Emotions

Hope, you and your family are safe and okay in this tough time.

While we are facing a global pandemic that has affected almost everyone alive in this generation, directly or indirectly, I thought to share with you some free resources that may empower you to manage your emotions effectively.

Millions are infected and are dealing with the devastating symptoms of this virus. Hundreds of thousands of people have also died leaving millions to mourn their losses. Millions have lost their jobs and countless businesses have been also closed.

These direct and indirect impacts of COVID19 cause stress in many homes and organizations. Such stressful times heighten our emotions making us vulnerable more than ever.

It is okay to find ourselves struggling with some unproductive emotions in times of crisis. We are emotional beings. Emotions are mere information letting us know what is happening underground. What isn’t okay is if they are adversely affecting our mood, health, and relationships. 

We may not have control over many things out there. We cannot control how the disease is spreading and when it will be under control. We cannot control how others around us behave, decide, and act. We only have control over ourselves. We can only regulate our own emotions. This may in turn improves our health, relationships, and partnerships. This is especially important if you are a leader.

You have to be aware of the emotions that you are experiencing moment by moment, and also the emotions of your people. You should also take it to the next level by expressing your emotions intelligently. You should also manage the emotions of others indirectly. You have the ability to change the atmosphere you find yourself in. What you need is improving your emotional fitness, especially now while we are in the midst of a major global crisis. 

In this blog, I thought to share with you some free resources that may empower you to take your emotional intelligence to the next level.

1. Get Chapter 2- “Regulating Your Emotions Wittingly” of my book ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success’. Click here to download it for free. 

2. When I was in Canada in January this year, I recorded a very short clip on my cell phone about Emotional Fitness. Click here to check it out…

3. I also recorded another short clip when I was facilitating a one-day workshop on Emotional Intelligence in February this year called Be Emotionally Available.

4. Recently, I also volunteered to facilitate a webinar on Managing Emotions in the Era of COVID19 for a non-profit leadership organization I helped found in 2009.

Let me know your thoughts once you check these out. How are you managing your emotions during this crisis? What is helping you to succeed? What is getting in the way?

Reach out if you may have any questions: Tel: 240-554-5282 Emailinfo@successpws.com

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